The 5 Toughest Realities of Life You Need to Prepare For | Holistic Happiness Club | EP 63

In this eye-opening episode of the Holistic Happiness Club, we dive deep into the five toughest realities of life that everyone must face at some point. These harsh truths are inevitable, yet many of us struggle to accept them until they hit us hard. By preparing for these life challenges, we can build resilience, inner strength, and a greater sense of peace.

Join us as we explore each reality, offering practical tips on how to embrace them with grace and courage. Whether you're going through a difficult time or simply looking to equip yourself for the future, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you navigate life’s toughest moments.

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• Why accepting harsh truths is key to personal growth
• How to face life's biggest challenges with a positive mindset
• The importance of preparation in overcoming difficult situations

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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Holistic Happiness Club. And today's episode is going to be a bit different because I usually talk about positive stuff, things that are simple, that you can apply in your life immediately and start seeing the results. But today I'm going to talk about harsh realities of life, harsh truths of life that are going to happen to every one of us that are there in our life, that are always present. Even if we have not seen them in our life yet, we might have. We must have seen them in other people's life. And sooner or later, they are going to happen to us as well, right? So it's better that we accept those truth and we better be prepared when the situation arises. So those things I'm going to talk about in this episode. But before I get into the episode and the content of the episode, I just want to say thank you so much. Thank you so much for choosing to tune into holistic happiness club. And a special, special thank you to all those who choose to tune into holistic happiness club every single week. This is the commitment of your time, this is the investment of your time into holistic happiness club. That is the fuel, that is the motivation behind holistic happiness club. It keeps us on our edge, on our toes to produce more and more good content. And thank you so much for always supporting us with your commitment of time. So without further delay, let's get into this episode. Hi, my name is Akshay Tiwari. I'm a holistic happiness coach, author of the book named Usher, and the founder of Holistic Happiness Club. Holistic Happiness Club is the place where we talk about happiness holistically. We understand that happiness is not a single faceted thing. It's a multifaceted concept. And everything that is there in our life, be it our health, be it our wealth, be it success, career, or relationship, everything affects our happiness. And that is why we need to look at every aspect of our life. And that is what we try into holistic happiness club. So, more about me and more about holistic happiness club at the end of the episode. But for now, sit back, relax, and enjoy the episode. All right, so let's start with the episode now and the first truth. First reality of life is life is not fair. Yeah, we all understand that life is not fair and we must have experienced it at some point in our life. Or if we have not experienced it firsthand, at least we have seen people suffering from this and we have seen that there are not equal opportunity. Not everybody is going to get an equal chance. There are unpredictable outcome means a student who can study very hard for the whole year, maybe at the end he fumbles and. And the end result is not very good. Or maybe an athlete who practice a lot for the entire four years, but in the Olympics he does not do that well. Right? So there can be multiple, multiple scenarios. These are just two examples that life is not fair. Okay. There are, there are bad things happening to good people. And if you are going to look for the answers why they are they are happening. I mean, yes, we can look for the answers and there are some religious practices and some spiritual practices and literature that can also tell us the answer. But in my opinion, it is better to not find the answer, but to find the solution. When you are met with such kind of situation, it is okay if you want to find those answers to these questions. Why life is unfair. So one of the answer that hindu religion offers, hindu scriptures offers is law of karma. People have done some stupid, stupid things in their. This life or maybe in past lives. And because of that, they are. They are facing the results now. And also, even if the people are good, if they are doing a stupid thing right now, then the results are not going to be that great. So if you are a vegetarian and you are saying that I am a very saintly person and I'm. And you are going to throw yourself in front of the line and thinking that I am a saint, I don't eat people. Why? This lion will eat me. That's not gonna work. If he is hungry, he's going to eat you, right? So if you are doing stupid things, of course, even if you are a good person, if you are doing stupid things, the results are going to be stupid. But here we are not going to investigate the reasons why life is unfair. The real question is what you do when you meet such situation that life is unfair. When you see that there are unpredictable outcomes, then when you see that there are unequal opportunities. So there are two things that you can do. Number one, reframe your perspective. You need to see things from a different angle. You need to focus on what you can control right now. See, there are so many factors that drives a result and there is only one fraction that you control from that. And then that you can call karma or your own duties that you can control. Okay? So focus on what you can control and ask yourself, how can I grow as a person from this situation? What can I learn from this situation? Okay. And if there is anything that is under your control that you can fix in this situation, only focus on that thing. Otherwise, try to treat it as an opportunity to grow. Because anything that hurts, it will help you grow. Anything that does not kill you, make you stronger. That's some quote that have. I just remember, I just thought to quote, it's very much fitting in the situation. And the second thing that you need to do is practice self compassion. See what happens when we are met with such situations. We become so critical of ourselves. We started thinking that it was our fault. Maybe something that I have done, I have not done well. And even if we do not blame ourselves, still we think that, okay, we are. This is going to be the result every single time because it has been this way or what is the point if I have worked so hard, but the result is not that great, so why should I, why should I bother next time? So you need to practice self compassion in this time. You need to treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would treat a friend in similar situation. Be gentle with yourself and remind yourself that it is okay to feel upset or frustrated when things don't go as planned. Okay? It's okay to feel upset and it's okay to be in that situation for little while. But as I said, you need to reframe your perspective. You need to ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation and how can I grow as a person in this situation? That is how you are going to treat this situation when you are feeling that life is not being fair to you. All right, so this was the first reality. Second is failure is inevitable. Okay? When you are on any path, whether you are doing a business or whether you are in a job, whether you are just a housewife or you are some scientist or something, failures are going to be there. You can look up to anyone's life. You can read any biography. The greatest of the people, the smartest of the people on this planet earth, the people who are living right now, or the people who ever walked on this earth. Everybody had their fair share of failure. Everybody fails at some point in time. So it is inevitable. It is going to happen at some point in time. So we should be prepared that how we are going to tackle this failure. We should not think that, okay, everything that I am going to do right now, it is going to end up in a failure. That's not the point. Failure might happen and it will happen at some point in time, but we need to be prepared to deal with this failure and how we will be prepared. We need to. We need to understand that failure is just telling us that there is something that needs to be looked at, there is something that needs to be corrected. There is something that needs to be done in a better manner. So you can treat this failure as a stepping stone. You can treat this failure as an opportunity to grow, and you can again in this situation also, you need to embrace this imperfection and you need to be kind to yourself. See that failure is a natural part of life. You need to accept that. So when challenges arrive, accept them as a part of your growth, accept them as a stepping stone for your success. And these are inevitable. It's not only that they are just inevitable and they are just going to happen. They are there to teach us some lessons that makes success a much more beautiful thing. What is the fun if you are just going to run your first race and you are going to win? And if you are going to run hundreds of hundreds of race and every time you are going to win? So there is no fun in that, right? So when you taste success after few failures, that become. That makes it much more enjoyable. So I am not saying that you need, you have to fail in order to enjoy success. What I am saying that at some point in time we are going to fail and we need to accept it as we accept success. So that was the second truth or second harsh reality of life. Third thing is happiness is fleeting, okay? And now you might be like what you are talking about? You are a happiness coach and you are saying that happiness is fleeting. It does not stay. It is not a permanent thing. Of course it's not a permanent thing. It might be a permanent thing for people like Mahatma Buddha, Osho and Mahavir Swami, and enlightened people like Jesus, but for common people who are not enlightened, being who are not awakened yet, happiness is fleeting because we get caught in the humdrum of life. There are ups and downs, there are comparisons. Even if you get what you are looking for, then as soon as you get something, then you start comparing yourself consciously or some subconsciously, you start comparing yourself with some other person. So you, if you have got a car, then you may start comparing yourself with the person who has got a bigger car, right? So in one moment you are happy. But in the next moment, when something you do, something means or something happens, circumstances changes and your happiness becomes the thing of the past. So the thing is here, these things happens, these ups and downs come and these you start comparing because you are chasing fulfillment, you are chasing happiness. Okay, so happiness is an internal state. It's not in the external factors. So more you are centered towards centered inwards, more your life is flowing inwards and more you are staying in this moment. See the comparison thing. Ups and downs. Worry about future or feeling guilt or shame. That is in the past. All these things are either in future or in the past. Right now, in this moment, many a times, we don't have any problem. So if we are just witnessing this moment as it is unfolding its beauty, then we will be happy permanently. I know it's easier said than done. I am also not a Buddha, so I am also not in that state. But hey, who said that you need to be perfect? Who said that we need to be hundred percent perfect before we start doing anything, right? So even if we are mindful about 20% of the day, if we are right now, we are living in on autopilot hundred percent of the day. And after some practice of mindfulness and other practices, maybe after month or two, month or six months down the line, if we are, we start living 30% day mindfully and we start observing the moments mindfully and we let the moment unfold their own beauty. So it's a 30% progress. We are 30%, at least 30% more happy compared to six months before, right? So who said that you have to be a Buddha in order to experience all those things? You can start it. Even a 1% improvement is an improvement. And over time, with practice, these things becomes better and better. So the moral is that you don't have to chase the happiness. So it's an illusive and elusive thing if you are, if you want to chase it. Because when you are chasing by default, you are saying that this, this is something which, which is going to happen in future, right? It's not there in this present moment. And when future comes, it becomes present and you are chasing something else. But the thing is, the life is happening in this present moment. So you need to seize this moment. You don't have to catch this moment. There is a difference. You need to seize this moment. You need to observe this moment, okay? The moment you try to find happiness, it will fly away from your fist. You cannot catch hold on it, right? You can just observe it you can just be there and observe this. That is what you need to do. So that is another harsh reality of life. That happiness is fleeting. If you are caught in the ups and downs, if you are caught in the comparison traps, if you are triggered by other people, if you are looking for external validations etc etc. Then happiness will always be a fluoresce cheating concept for you. If you are chasing it, it is not going to happen to you. The only thing is that you can do is be mindful as much as you can. Even 1% progress is a progress. All right, all right. So before we move forward, I have a very special request, request to you, all of you. If you are enjoying this discussion, if you are enjoying this contest content which I think you are, that's why you are here till now, I request you to rate this podcast on itunes or Spotify wherever you are listening up to the five star so that more and more people can be reached out by this podcast and also share this podcast with others with whom you think that it will be beneficial to them. Alright? And if you are listening to this podcast on YouTube, please like this video, please share this and please subscribe to the channel as well. That will be the biggest help to me in order to spread the word, in order to reach to more and more people. So that was the special request from my end. Let's enjoy the rest of the discussion. All right, so the fourth thing is, people will disappoint you always, right? So there is a chapter in my book I have written about my 1000 kilometer bike ride, motorbike ride journey, in which I have written that when there was a harsh sun, when. So when I was going there in the morning, it was little cold. So when sun came out, it became pleasant. But after some time, that same sunlight became a little bit more warm and it became little hot, right? So the same sun, which was looking very good 2 hours back in 2 hours, it became like, okay, I don't want this much. Then clouds came. So clouds were very nice because they were covering the, the warmth or the hotness of the sun, the external extreme temperature of the sun. But after some time, when clouds started raining again, I was like, okay, why it is raining? So. But the thing, the thing is that people will do what they are supposed to do. They will do as it is pleasing to them. Not according to you. If you want, that sun should be out but it should not shine too much. It is not going to happen. Either it will be out and it will shine as much as it would or it will not come out. It is not going to happen according to you. Likewise, people are there. People will do their own things. Sometime it will be pleasing to you. Sometime it will not be. Sometime it will be according to your expectations. Sometime it will not be. Sometime they will keep their promise because it was in their favor or they were not going to get any kind of harm by keeping their promises. But some other time they might need to break their promises that they have made to you because they will look for their own interest. Sometime they will keep your trust. Sometime they will break your trust. It will happen. It always happens. Because you cannot control other people. So the thing is that you need to accept people as they are, okay? They are human, they are not God. They are not going to be like. Like you desire them to be. Always also. And the thing is that with time, people also evolve. We evolve, I evolve, you evolve. So other person will also evolve. So today, maybe he made a promise to you, maybe he said something to you, he or she said something to you. But maybe one year down the line they have learned new things and now they want to move on to different things. It is very, very natural. All right? So accept people as they are. Keep your expectations low. I know it is easier said than done when you are with people, when you are in any kind of relationship, whether it is romantic relation or you are in a friendship or they are your relatives or family members, you develop some expectation in a relationship, right? So, but try to keep it as low as possible. Possible. And try to surround yourself with people who inspire you, who push you, who motivate you and who are good for you in general. Okay? So that's how, what you will do is, you will minimize your disappointment. I cannot guarantee that this will. This will 100% will. It will make you disappointment proof, but it will minimize the impact. Also be ready that people might do as per you, as per your expectations. They might work and they might not. Alright? They are people, they are human. So be ready to accept this fact. And when it is not happening according to you, still accept them and love them as you would. Because they are at the end. They are also human and you are also human. This is going to happen with you also. You are going to do the same thing to someone else at some point in time, right? So this is the fourth harsh reality of life that people will disappoint you. The fifth one, not everyone is going to like you. Okay? Think about when Lord Rama and Lord Krishna came on this earth. There were people who were against them. Forget about being against them. They waged a war against them. Lord Rama has to fight a war. Lord Krishna has to fight a war. When Jesus came on this earth, there were people who crucified them, right? Even today, not, not everybody except everyone of these great figures. Not everybody except Lord Rama. Not everybody except Lord Krishna. Not everybody except Jesus, right? Not everybody accepts Buddha. Everybody has their own ideas. So some people are going to find your ideas fascinating, your talks fascinating, your company pleasant and worth to have, but others will not. Okay. There are all kinds of people. It takes all kind of people to make the world. And so there will be all kind of people. And there will be people who will like you, who will support you, who will. Who will find inspiration from you, who will find your suggestions worth taking. And also there will be people who will ignore you. There will be people who will criticize you. There will be people who will. Who will try to pull you down, right? So there will be all sorts of people. The your job is not to cling on to people's validation. Not to look for the. For your approval in other people's behavior or words. What your job is. First of all, you need to embrace the individuality that everybody is different. Second thing, or maybe first thing that you need to accept yourself. First, you need to appreciate you. You need to value you rather than worrying about those who will note. Okay, so first thing is that. And second thing, embrace individuality, trying to please everyone. It will. Then it will lead to compromising your true self. You are not here to please everyone. You are here to do your job. And there will be people who will find it valuable. And there will be people who will not find it valuable. It's okay. So embrace individuality. And when there is a criticism or when people are trying to pull you down, just take a note of it. If there is anything for you to take from this situation and grow from there. If it is not, leave it and move on. Okay? That's how you are going to deal with this situation. That not everybody is liking you. You are not here for taking everybody else everyone else's approval. You are here to do your job. So do your job and move on. So these are. These were the five harsh realities of life. In the next episode, I'm going to uncover five more. And there. There can be many, many more. So if you want, I will cover some more. Otherwise, when we go on about life, life teaches us a lot of lesson. So these are few of the lesson which are big ones, according to me. So that. So I thought of covering them. So this was the part one in the part two. Part part two. I will cover some more, right? So stay tuned for that. So this was the end of this topic, but before I end the episode, I have few announcement to make. Like always, I invite you to become a member of holistic Happiness Club. Membership of holistic Happiness Club is free. You can join holistic Happiness club by following the link which is given in the description, alright? And as I said, membership is free and there are so many perks of membership. There are free sessions that are being conducted every single week. So you can join them. You can ask your questions, you can interact with me there, and you can interact with other people's people also who are on the same journey as you are. Alright? The second thing is that I have written an ebook. The name of the ebook is the happiness blueprint. It's a pocket size ebook. It is full of practical strategies for a fulfilled life. There are so many things that are mentioned in this book, which is a small book and you can take out few of these practices from this book and start applying to your life immediately and start seeing results immediately. To download this book, you need to follow the link which is given in the description. You can follow the link and download this ebook. Also, if you want to connect with me on one to one basis, you want to discuss your roadblocks for success and happiness. You can connect with me on a one to one basis by following the link which is again given in the description. If you want to connect with me on social media, then Instagram is the place.@happinessarchitect is my Instagram handle. You can connect with me on Instagram and we can have a DM or you can follow the valuable content that I post on an everyday basis on Instagram and other social media platform as well. Alright, and if you want to know more about me, you can visit my website which is akshaytiwari.in So there is other information that is given on the website. Alright, so this is the episode. Let me know what you think about this episode. Let me know what you have learned from this episode and also let me know what else you want to hear from me. If there is anything that you want me to talk about, you can let me know in the description in the comment section. I will take a note and I will try to make another episode on that. Questions? All right, so this is the end of the episode till the time we are connecting with each other again. Take care of yourself, take care of your loved one and take care of the people around you. And always remember, happiness is a lifestyle. Bye bye. God bless.